How to tell if your woman is cheating..

How To Tell If Your Wife Or Girlfriend Is Cheating On You



In a relationship, there’s nothing worse than that sinking feeling that your partner is cheating on you. All relationships have low spots in them, where people get a little too comfortable with one another or the fire has abated somewhat. This doesn’t necessarily mean someone is going to stray. But it does mean you should know some of the warning signs of a cheating woman.

Below is a list of nine behaviors common to women who are cheating. If any of these signs are pointing towards a cheater, you might consider seeking additional tips here: How to Catch a Cheating Spouse

So where is the line between being smart and being paranoid? I wouldn’t get paranoid if one of these pops up in your marriage. If several of them begin to happen all at once, then I would start to get concerned.

1. A New Wardrobe.

If your wife or girlfriend starts to dress differently, this is a sign she’s dressing for another man. Of course, women like new clothes. So don’t get crazy if she continues her normal shopping patterns. But if you notice she’s bought a whole bunch of new lingerie, you could have a problem.

2. A New Exercise Regimen

This one is closely connected to the wardrobe issue. She wants to look nice for someone. And since she hasn’t exactly been trying to impress you lately, it might be someone else.

If your woman starts a new exercise plan, or becomes more dedicated to the old routine, then she may have hidden motivations for doing so. Of course, if spring has just hit and she’s trying to take off those extra ten pounds, that’s an entirely different matter. But a new exercise program in the middle of a season could be trouble, especially if it coincides with sexy new clothes and undies.

3. Secret Phone Calls

If you see your wife trying to avoid being overheard on the phone, this is a sign she doesn’t want you to know something. Now, when I talk on the phone, I don’t like being in a room with someone else. For one thing, it seems rude for me to be talking over whatever they are doing. Second, I get distracted trying to have two discussions at once.

But if your wife has been happy for years to talk away while you watch t.v., but suddenly decides you need peace and quite, this is a sign that she doesn’t want you to hear what she’s talking about.

4. Hidden Bills

If your wife is hiding her credit card bills, this is a bad sign. Okay, this might just mean she’s been charging up the credit card and doesn’t want you to know about the debt she’s running up.

It could also mean that she doesn’t want you to know about the hotel rental bills and the trips to Victoria’s Secret. An elicit love affair is going to call for a few odd expenditures, the kind of thing a wife with a guilty conscience doesn’t want her husband seeing.

5. Is Aloof and Uncommunicative

If she suddenly seems aloof, then she might have other things on her mind. Relationships are built around good communication. More than men, women need a partner who talks to them. So if the two of you aren’t talking, that’s a problem even in a faithful relationship.

Your wife may have complained about you communicating with her in the past. If she suddenly seems to lose interest in talk, this means she’s given up on you. It could also mean she has found someone with whom to talk.

6. Seems Preoccupied

If your significant other doesn’t seem interested in you and the children, she might have her mind on her new relationship outside of the family. She might be marking time until she can escape to her love affair. So if all your wife or girlfriend wants to do is watch television, this might be a sign she’s passing the hours until her next escape.

7. Stays Away From Home More Often

If your woman stays at work or school late, that’s a bad sign. Business trips and sudden changes of plan are suspicious, too. She needs time to have an affair, and unless your schedule is unusually open, this is going to show up somewhere.

8. Mood Swings

Because women actually have a conscious unlike men, Feelings of guilt will show up in strange ways. She might suddenly be much more affectionate than she has been, so much so that it seems artificial. This is her trying to cope with guilt feelings.

At other times, if she appears to be picking fights with you, this is another way of coping with guilt. She needs justification for cheating, so she will pick fights that allow her to look at you as the bad guy.

If both of these appear at once, then these mood swings are a good indication that something is going on.


9. Stories About Their Guy Friend

Have you ever had your wife talk constantly about some guy friend of hers at work or school? If you’re in a healthy relationship, it probably doesn’t mean anything. But if the two of your haven’t been communicating well lately, this other man is probably filling a need for her. That might turn into an extramarital affair.

Now, if suddenly your woman stops talking about this same man, you need to find out why. This might indicate a falling out with this guy. If not, it might indicate her friendship has turned into something else. This sudden lack of disclosure could mean a guilty conscience, or a fear you or someone else will be able to guess what’s really going. She doesn’t want that guy’s name brought up in the conversation.

How to tell if a man loves you...

Tips to Know if He Loves You

Okay ladies so I do a lot of tweeting about men and love and relationships and as you all know I goes in on #TT so I decided to go ahead and blog (Only from my perspectives different ways to tell when a man is in love or love you) on a topic.

So.... don't worry damsels, here are some useful tips to know whether your mate/partner or lover really loves you or not:

A very obvious one when he takes interests in your matters like work schedule, it means he is really concerned with you and loves you.

Whenever a guy keeps a track on your habits, remembers whatever you do and say simply indicates his love for you.

When a guy wants to spend more time with you, dates out with you at places of your choice and share the your favorite pastimes then he is madly in love with you.

If he gives more importance to his friends even if you are sick or in need of him shows his lack of interest in you.

Changing of topic when you discuss about your future with him is not a good sign of a healthy relationship with your love.

If he doesn't want to spend time with you or don't ever want to go out with you in public and never introduces you to his friends mean he does not love you.

When he calls you or message you just to chitchat with you means he deeply loves you and was finding any reason to talk to you.

If he is really concerned about you and loves you then he would always take out time from his busy schedule.

When he keeps looking you when you are around and suddenly takes off his eyes when you look at him shows he's in love with you.

When he praises about you to his friends, family and others means he truly loves you.

His every action will make you believe he loves you.

If he changes his plans or cancels them last minute then he is surely avoiding you.

If he is trying to be friendly with you and tries to make an effort to know more about you shows signs of love for you.

You can make out from a person's eyes. The person in love with you has special shine in his eyes when he's talking to you.

10 Reason's men cheat...

BLAME IT ON THE GENES

In troubled relationships, cheating can be an easy alternative to the burden of a breakup or the agony of divorce. It's a quick fix for the sake of the couple's or the family's integrity. Some of us have even gone so far as to enact the long-distance code: If you cheat in another zip code, it doesn't count.

And with evolutionary psychologists telling us that we are wired to lay our seeds in as many women as possible to ensure our genetic survival, adultery is slowly becoming a defensible misdeed, which may explain why women are catching up to men in the game of infidelity.

Because of our insatiable appetite for sex, we men can sometimes only be as faithful as our options. Here are the 10 main reasons why some men will opt to shed their devotion and cheat on their partners.


NUMBER 10

Your lady doesn't put out
Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start "working late" more often.

Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn't want to try new things in bed, or won't perform fellatio. Some men may cheat because they don't want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their "good girl" image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This , "That's the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!"

In light of this, I call on lawmakers around the world to create an International BJ Day, where men and women get the day off from work and get all the oral satisfaction they need from their partners. I'll bet that this alone would cut infidelity by at least 75%.


NUMBER 9

She cheated on you
So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they've had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that's efficiency.


NUMBER 8

It's challenging and exciting
If you consider the women you sleep with "sexual trophies," chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.


NUMBER 7

You can get away with it
"What eyes don't see, the heart doesn't feel," goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.


NUMBER 6

It boosts your ego
Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. Once a man knows he can get back in the game, he'll return to his mate; or not.

What's a guy to do when his girlfriend's-a-naggin' and opportunity comes-a-knockin'?


NUMBER 5

The opportunity was there
It's an uncontested fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it's a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it's a horny hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe diem , as they say.


NUMBER 4

Your girlfriend is a nag
Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin.


NUMBER 3

Men say... "Women let us"
Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. (My mother always told me a MAN WILL ONLY TREAT YOU HOW YOU ALLOW HIM TO TREAT YOU!) Maybe it's a woman's fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men's infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. Just ask Bill Clinton.


NUMBER 2

She doesn't turn you on anymore
Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. This is why most mistresses are gorgeous, young women.


NUMBER 1

You don't love her anymore
Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it's almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.

YOUR CHEATING HEART

In the end, cheating is no joking matter. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife, it might be that you are unhappy in the relationship, or that you have issues that you should address. Look at the big picture and see your unfaithfulness as a symptom of a bigger problem.

Cheating might feel good as a quick escape from your problems, but it's only an anesthetic -- not a long-term solution.

Body language- She's had enough drinks!

Martin Luther King, Jr.: I Have a Dream

10 REASON'S being single is GREAT!

Reason #1: You have a better body.
We have all been there you get into a relationship, and suddenly you’re trying out new recipes all the time and cuddling instead of exercising. Well, things tend to get worse with marriage. A recent Cornell University study found that women generally gain five to eight pounds in the first few years of marriage and unhappily married women gain an average of 54 pounds in the first 10 years.

For the unmarried, though, the motivation to stay slim remains: “Singles look at themselves through the eyes of others and want to be attractive to potential partners so they’re still ‘working on themselves.’” In short, being single is way better than any New Year’s resolution or exercise DVD to motivate you to stay in shape.

Reason #2: You’re more likely to achieve great things.
It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you have the time, the quiet and the lack of familial responsibilities. In fact, your premarital motivation to excel in life may be biologically programmed. According to a study conducted at the London School of Economics and Political Scientists, male scientists who stay single longer peak in their careers later in life and tend to be more productive than their married counterparts. Researchers theorize that men, in general, may show off their talents to win the interest of women and then, once they’ve won a wife, get comfortable and do less. In fact, studies have shown that testosterone levels, which boost action, decrease after a man gets married and has children. So single folk should know they are primed to achieve whether that means turbo-charging their careers or honing their rock-climbing skills and get out there and work it!

Reason #3: You do makes you happy.

Reason #4: You can do what you want with your money including keep it.
Go ahead: Splurge on that pricey moisturizer or that obscenely large plasma TV you’ve been lusting after. You don’t have to justify your purchase to anyone but yourself. Once you mix money with marriage, though, things change and fast. According to a survey by Smart Money magazine, 40 percent of women and 36 percent of men have lied to their spouses about a purchase.

Reason #5: You have better sex.
Married couples may have more sex (approximately 98 times a year vs. singles’ 49), but singles have better sex. According to a recent study published in the British Medical Journal, married women are significantly more likely to report problems with their sex lives than single women. “People who are dating have better sex because it’s novel,” says Davis. “Married people have to relearn how to play. It’s natural for singles because that’s the nature of a courting relationship they tease, they experiment, they explore.” Nature lends a helping hand, too. According to researchers at the University of Pisa in Italy, raging testosterone levels in both men and women makes the sex hotter during the first two years of a relationship. After that, other hormones take over most notably, oxytocin, a bonding chemical, kicks in. While getting connected and comfortable is a positive step in a relationship, long-term lovers have to work harder to keep things hot in the bedroom. Singles, however, sizzle just the way they are.

Reason #6: You’re better rested and smarter.
While snuggling up next to a warm body can be pretty fantastic, according to a survey conducted by the National Sleep Foundation, your bed mate can cause you to lose an average of 49 minutes of sleep per night. Sleeping two to a bed just isn’t as restful as snoozing solo. Other studies confirm that singles generally get more rest seven to eight hours of sleep a night than married couples, which enhances memory, mood and concentration, as well as allows your immune system to recharge. And, according to scientists at the University of Luebeck in Germany, creativity and problem-solving may directly correlate with getting enough sleep. In the study, participants were given a math puzzle; those who’d had eight hours of sleep or more before tackling it were three times more likely to get the right answer than those who slept less. So, singles, revel in the fact that you’re alert, rested and have that extra brain power edge.

Reason #7: You’re less depressed.
Although the media often perpetuates the image of single people being down in the dumps, overall unmarried people tend to be happier than their married counterparts if you’re a woman, that is. One report by the World Health Organization indicated that married women, especially ones with children, have a higher risk for depression than single women, and researchers at the University of London found that single women generally have fewer mental-health issues. “Marriage, in many ways, seems to benefit men more than women,” says Davis. “For women, there’s more of a loss of self.” And, of course, today’s women often feel like they need to do it all have a career, take care of the kids and perform other traditionally “female” responsibilities. “People who aren’t married are still investing in themselves,” says Davis. “It’s not selfish it’s giving to yourself, and that’s something married people can learn from single people.”

Reason #8: You have better friendships.
Significant others are a wonderful thing, no doubt, but friends count, too. And on that front, one study found that, when women get married and have children, they spend much less time with their friends less than five hours a week, down from 14 hours. Singles, however, often have the greatest sense of friendship and community which can actually decrease stress levels, according to researchers at UCLA.


Reason #9: Your travel tales are enviable.
Married couples take the most vacations, dominating the market with 62 percent of all trips taken, but singles arguably go on more interesting trips. According to the Travel Industry Association of America, singles corner the adventure-travel market, engaging in activities like white water rafting, scuba diving and mountain biking. Being single and relatively footloose certainly allows you to expand your geographical and personal borders.

Reason #10: You know yourself and what you want out of a relationship.
You are a better catch now than you were at 20. You may have signs of, ahem, experience etched on your face, but that’s OK because you’re more interesting and more self-aware. Not only have you grown as a person, but you’ve probably been through the ringer a few times in matters of love and now know what you want and what you don’t. Experts say that bodes well for future marital success and may actually decrease the likelihood of divorce. “When people get married young, they often feel like the other person will complete them, and they have trouble moving past that Hollywood myth,” explains Chase. “But maturity brings so much, because if you’re able to communicate who you are and what you want, the better your chances of having a successful marriage.” And that’s a wonderful message: Your single self is great... and should you find the right person and decide to marry, you’re more likely to thrive in that stage of your life, too.

Don't Make It Worse.