For years I've had many male friends. (No fcuking involved) Not too mention I have 3 brother's and a number of male cousin's that kept me in a certain place as I matured into a woman. Ya know, they kept me "Sharp" when it comes to men... not to mention the natural logic within my own mind. My brain works on a firm and fair basis. I have a very deep understanding, and again I'm a very Logical woman. What I am about to say is "Strickly" on a "If I was a man" theory. I am about to explain how I know I would operate as a guy.. and in no way am I making or creating a "escape go" for cheater's, manipulators, or womanizers. In fact for the record I will make it clear as a "Woman" My mind differ in my "If I was a man" theory and this blog is simply how my mind work.
Let me explain something to further demonstrate myself as a person. As many people know I am a very strong, bold woman. I know this... I have very strong beliefs in what I believe in but I also respect and can accept another person's views, still standing firm in my own. So know this. I have a dominating streak within myself so in that aspect I feel I can identify with the way a man think. That is why I feel I can write such blog describing "If I was a man" so here we go.
RELATIONSHIP WISE
IF I WAS A MAN..... I would marry my bottom chic, off top or the woman I feel is genuine. I'd never ever marry the woman I am "ify" about. If something don't seem right most of the time it isn't. anyways she has to be my down my ride or die. She wouldn't have to worry about anything, Mortgage, Car note, Groceries, Bills etc. everything would be taken care of off top because I have a "Provider" mentality. I believe every man should take care of home... FIRST! above anything else. Home is home. Home is supposed to be comfortable as well as a stress free zone, when I'm out in the streets I'm in the streets but wifey and the kids shall always be happy and comfortable. Taking care of home, distinguishes so many problems. I don't believe men understand this. The things women bitch about are typically... Time, Money or another woman... and again, that's where taking care of home is number 1 PRIORITY!
Men are often know to have a chic or two on the sideline, either their sleeping with them or not, I can't front if I was a man although I love my wife with all of my heart I may have a chic I deal with for whatever personal reason... But side chic's should never ever have access or the ability to create problematic situations at HOME. Men slip all thee time when it comes to side hoes. (Fcuking with out rubber's, giving them the home number, buying them sentimental objects via credit card.. whatever)If you are keeping home locked down and creeping, the worse thing any man can do is give a "outside bitch" access and or information regarding home. As soon as a outside bitch feels she have significant info to screw a man over with his family, she will. And she will tell it all... not to mention make herself sound or appear more relevant then the wife, How fcuked up is that? In that case a deep deception wall will be built on the behalf of a wife. Wanna know more comment and let me know.. I will gladly share more insight on my thoughts :)
5 comments:
Man this is sooo true.. I been tryna contact you for the longest. U are a major inspiration to me.. My mom passed this year I don't wanna elaborate too much on that but I will say we have a lot in common even though I am an Aries but man I'm only 22 young educated female just trying to make it.. Anyway I wanna talk to you more one on one I'm very private that's why I'm not saying much but is there a way we can talk via email or something? I wish u could be a nigga mentor lol kus I'm sooo lost in certain thangs I feel but I know your hella damn smart & wise already so please respond soon <3 u queen
hmmm ;-) this is game lol. i am 21 goin on 22yrs old on Jan.21st this year 2011. truthfully i've been a lil irritated by a few females saying to myself that im really not ready for a girlfriend. mainly because i don't feel there's any my age who wanna build anything(foundation). with that said and what u just said i can start this year off a lil more fresh lol. yea i am feelin good with this one Queen.
oh yea this is BlackMel btw ;-) im always reachin out to you but wheneva u get a better look at me, hit me up sometime.
my email: blackmel89@gmail.com
I totally agree more men need to start taking care of home first. But if you love your wife and went through the process of getting married leave them side hoes alone for good. Marriage is sacred & not for the faint of heart. No matter how good a man covers his track his lies always get back to his wife.
Don't mess up your happy home for a piece of meaningless ass!
when a man loves a woman, he can't think of nothing else
when a man has a woman that will settle for anything, he can't think of nothing else
when a man has a woman who respects herself, he can't think of nothing else
A man is going to be a man and he will be the man you let him be or expect him to be or want him to be. It's up to us as to what type of man we are going to settle for or as to what we will allow. there is a man for ever woman, it depends on which one we are going to let into our world.
We as women hold the key in our relationships. We detemine the outcome of loyalty by our exceptance of his disloyalty not a man. When we give up our power to be in a respectable relationship, then we chose to cultivated disloyalty by settling. know fault of his but our own.
Be a woman, even if he chooses not too.
If the women keeps the house stress free.The man will keep the balance.Men will always adore women/women will always adore a man or another woman.What she needs to do is maintain a bond with her partner that can't be broken by foolish things such as what you women argue or make petty noise about.Men need to be honest with there partners at all times and let them know if they've met another female that strikes there interest,allowing them to have a conversation that will explore any problems in the relationship etc.By doing this you will eliminate any problems in which you may have in concerns of why he's looking outside the relationship for comfort ie:COMMUNICTION is key.If another woman or lady is allowed in the situation ,you become the situation which leaves everybody unhappy.Now if you feel as though your more special than the new girl and now shes got your previldges, then you're doing something wrong and both of you as partners are not discussing or communicating perfectly.Therefore keep the energy between the both of you relevant.eg:Learn to communicate your bodies & minds which is not just sexual but physical and mental to a higher plan of unity.In other words,don't allow for someone or something else to break up a happy HOME.That is if it's happy in the first place.As a real man if your well tken care of you won't have to look outside,but also know this we as people all need to share love so we will always have friends or admires which we show some form of affection to.So this is where the C WORD comes in...Do you know what that is????If you do.Then use it as often as you can for it is your only key to stability.
{Lady tell me more or your "If I was A man theory":)PLEASE}
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